Ogo ( in law )
There is a popular saying in Igbo land that "Ogo wu nwanne madu", meaning an in law is like a sibling , like a part of the family . Yes it's true and I totally agree with this adage ; but having said that , a lot of women are now over doing and taking this in-law thing too far in our society .
Yes 1 + 1 = 1 bla, bla , bla , but you don't go home to fight and keep malice with your husband because he didn't meet a certain expected financial obligations of your family !
That's totally unacceptable !
Ladies , that a man is married to you does not mean he has automatically inherited your entire family's , clan's, kindred's, village's , autonomous community's, local government's , senatorial zone's , state's geographical zone's , country's , continent's and planet's financial problems !
Husband build house for my father in the village, buy car for my mother , pay my younger sister's school fees , send my brother to America , open a business for my cousin , bury my dead uncle , do this , do that ! Haba ! If a husband is required to do all these things because he married you , then what will your brothers do for your parents that bore them ? Who supposed to be their biological parents and their responsibility? Your biological brothers will be probably required to go to Jupiter and harvest the moon for your parents I guess !
Then as a woman, shut up and don't complain when your own brothers are required by their own in laws to do the same for them !
People get married to share a life and build a future together , and not for one of the parties to break his back , carrying a load he does not know the foundation or anything about , because he married you !
That's totally unfair ! Yes a man should take care of his family bla bla , but this care should not include caring for your ancestors in the grave abeg ; we are all humans Biko !
Ladies listen , your husband can do stuff or take care of your family based on the principle that love is contagious and should spread to other members of the family ; but always bear in mind that your husband taking care of your family is not part of your marital rights , neither is it his responsibility as your husband !
Your husband should help your family because it is the right thing he should do , that's if he can afford it . However , it is not your freaking right or in your place as a wife to demand or fight for it !
It should come naturally, based on the cordial and loving relationship you two have , which will now extend to other members of the family.
It doesn't matter if he , as your husband happens to be the richest man on earth !
It still does not change the fact that it is not your marital right !
Women , stop going home to fight your husbands because according to you " he doesn't help my family ". If he is not helping , use your power as the wife , better yourself and help your family ! Leave him alone !
There are so many battles in this life ; ladies , learn to pick your fights wisely in your marriages and relationships !
I don't know about you , but I think this you are our "in law", and therefore you should carry my family's financial load mentality needs to be addressed !
Feel free to disagree with me !
Nora Oma (c), 2015.
There is a popular saying in Igbo land that "Ogo wu nwanne madu", meaning an in law is like a sibling , like a part of the family . Yes it's true and I totally agree with this adage ; but having said that , a lot of women are now over doing and taking this in-law thing too far in our society .
Yes 1 + 1 = 1 bla, bla , bla , but you don't go home to fight and keep malice with your husband because he didn't meet a certain expected financial obligations of your family !
That's totally unacceptable !
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| Beautiful writer with brilliant brains Nora Oma (@Nora Oma/facebook) |
Husband build house for my father in the village, buy car for my mother , pay my younger sister's school fees , send my brother to America , open a business for my cousin , bury my dead uncle , do this , do that ! Haba ! If a husband is required to do all these things because he married you , then what will your brothers do for your parents that bore them ? Who supposed to be their biological parents and their responsibility? Your biological brothers will be probably required to go to Jupiter and harvest the moon for your parents I guess !
Then as a woman, shut up and don't complain when your own brothers are required by their own in laws to do the same for them !
People get married to share a life and build a future together , and not for one of the parties to break his back , carrying a load he does not know the foundation or anything about , because he married you !
That's totally unfair ! Yes a man should take care of his family bla bla , but this care should not include caring for your ancestors in the grave abeg ; we are all humans Biko !
Ladies listen , your husband can do stuff or take care of your family based on the principle that love is contagious and should spread to other members of the family ; but always bear in mind that your husband taking care of your family is not part of your marital rights , neither is it his responsibility as your husband !
Your husband should help your family because it is the right thing he should do , that's if he can afford it . However , it is not your freaking right or in your place as a wife to demand or fight for it !
It should come naturally, based on the cordial and loving relationship you two have , which will now extend to other members of the family.
It doesn't matter if he , as your husband happens to be the richest man on earth !
It still does not change the fact that it is not your marital right !
Women , stop going home to fight your husbands because according to you " he doesn't help my family ". If he is not helping , use your power as the wife , better yourself and help your family ! Leave him alone !
There are so many battles in this life ; ladies , learn to pick your fights wisely in your marriages and relationships !
I don't know about you , but I think this you are our "in law", and therefore you should carry my family's financial load mentality needs to be addressed !
Feel free to disagree with me !
Nora Oma (c), 2015.
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